[Brad]

You know, I hesitate to respond to this being just a civilian, but I think I'm going to anyway. I'll start out by saying that I tried for 3 years to get into the military after 9/11 - and that's having 3 kids at the time I was trying to get in and 5 now. My brother's an AF pilot with now 7 kids. My brother in law is an Officer of Marines with 2 tours in Iraq under his belt - and two kids. I understand the strain of the military on a family - and on a reservist.

I have a cousin who's an Indiana National Guardsman - Military Policeman. He was in the exact same situation as you, trying to get on with a couple police departments and holding down a job and with a brand new wife. He got called up to Afghanistan. Twice. He went without complaining and without trying to get out of it. And was proud to do it. Cost him that policeman job, too.

Just saying.