Need Advice

[question123]

Okay so here it goes...

I am new...hello...please help...I am not nor ever have been in the military but I have so much respect for those of you who have served and are serving...so thank you
I have been dating this guy for almost a year now, but things are on the fence at the moment- mostly falling off now. He has shown a side of himself that just was out of the mental range of normal to me and my kids- a scary side recently. I have two children- ages 7 and 11.
My boy and girl are really great kids- little to no problems in school ever, great grades, no need for meds for now(they are not teens yet), and still like to cuddle with momma,and have great manners. The biological dad is really not there.
Okay so here is the deal: lonnnng story short(1 example): My son has an issue with the restroom. He goes # 1&2 just fine but for some weird reason has trouble making for #2 but doesn't go in his pants- it just gets caught in his cheeks and has trouble wiping- perhaps he gets caught up in playing or has a real issue but wiping for boys takes time I guess. One night he flipped out (the guy I have been with) and wanted me to kick my son out who at the time was six years old. Ummm no. I offered him to leave but my son stays. That freaked me out....among other things....I am trying to make that part short- he seems to be very depressed and angry at times etc etc blowing up over weird things...and does things that you would think a man would not...so I got to thinking and wondering...I saw his discharge paper from when he was in the Marines, but he doesn't know this...
He said he was in the Marines and was a sniper, but after seeing the discharge papers I became confused. I was never in the military and did not grow up around people in the military so I have been trying to figure all of this out on my own...doing my own research...
His discharge papers say the discharge was uncharacteristic due to a depressive disorder and it said fraudulant enlistment. He had a JDA1? He has also said he served in the Army as well but I have never seen those discharge papers.
When he and I first met I thought he was joking when he said the Marines listed him as schizophrenic or on the edge of having a persaonality disorder-something like that. It was probably to the effect of me joking about have different personalities- Me, Myself, and Irene...being silly etc etc...I have a crazy sense of humor...
Okay so the other day I asked him seriously - did the Marines diagnose you with something because he has been putting us all through a lot lately? He said yes- Schizophrenia. I asked him - is that why you left the Marines? he said yes and the subject was quickly changed. I then asked "Well how did you get into the Army then" He said he had to have another doctor declare him not Schizochophrenic and so he did and that is how he got in he says.
On his Marine discharge paper work it showed a time frame of two months I believe...less than 180 days and it showed San Diego, Ca....
Okay so then he said he went into the Army and was forced to leave because he got hurt in Iraq, went to an American base? to get better, got into a fight with someone above him, and because of that he lost all of his benefits he would have ever had...and can not re join...from what I have read you either lose benefits by being dishonorbly or OTH discharged...
Sooooo this is not soooo short huh but I need answers...
1. He said he went to sniper school and was a sniper while with the Marines...he has acknowledged...or I asked if he was in less than three years and he said less than that...he also wears glasses...
from what I have read it takes a long time to become a sniper and you must have 20/20 vision...
2. What does all of that really mean on his Marine discharge paper work?
3. How much lying is going on here?
4. Why would a shrink suddenly diagnose some one as Schizophrenia in the service? How wrong could that be?
5. Doesn't fradulaunt mean he knew this before because according to him he was perfect before that....well not schizophrenic which is possible but that is a huge label to apply to someone and then have to leave the military for...

I have asked him to leave our apartment for various reasons as you can probably imagine. He said the other night he felt like he was losing his sanity and he didn't know what triggered it. Like he could blow his brains out or maybe he said he was developing a second persona....I dunno he does know he needs help though...

Please help if you can...

I have two children and he is showing mental lllness but I feel like everything I have been told has been a potential lie...

[ScreaminChief]

Well, that's a lot to digest. If his Marine Corps papers say he was in for two months, then he was kicked out during boot camp. That negates sniper school, Iraq, and all the rest. His discharge papers would show everywhere he had been stationed during his enlistment. If it's not there, then 99.9% chance he didn't do it. There is always the chance of clerical errors on government paperwork, (hence the .1% chance), but this doesn't sound like the case to me here. As far as going in the Army afterwards, I doubt it. They aren't having a huge recruitment problem lately and would likely not accept someone who had problems in another branch of service already.

Of course, I could be mistaken, but with the information you've provided I would say it is a lot of storytelling on his part.

[Frisbee]

The bottom line is, if your afraid and want to get rid of him take legel action I.E. restraining order. Regardless if he was in the USMC and then the Army and has done everything he says he has, a nutcase is still a nutcase. Protect your kids.